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+[#]: subject: "How I used guilt as a motivator for good"
+[#]: via: "https://opensource.com/article/23/4/guilt-motivation"
+[#]: author: "Surya Seetharaman https://opensource.com/users/its-surya"
+[#]: collector: "lkxed"
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+How I used guilt as a motivator for good
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+Recently, I was asked by a friend and colleague if I were interested in speaking together at a conference. I was pleasantly surprised because I hadn't contributed much to the project they were presenting, but I expressed interest. We met to discuss the presentation, and that's when I learned the real reason I was asked to participate: The conference's [diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI)][1] initiatives required there to be at least one speaker that does not identify as a man. I was offended; it felt like I was approached only because of my gender, not based on merit.
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+My friend assured me that wasn't the only reason I'd been asked. They needed new contributors to the project because there was a lot of work to be done, and they were hoping I could help fill that gap.
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+**[ Want to create your own event? Read the [10-step guide for a successful hackathon][2] ]**
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+I gave it some thought and tried to understand why the DEI initiatives were in place.  I also thought about the other side of the coin, where the people who wanted to present couldn't, unless they found someone from a minority group to present alongside them.
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+As I thought about the bigger picture and the benefits this opportunity would bring to me, I decided to forego my ego being hurt. Once I let go of feeling offended, I realized that I was also feeling very uncomfortable presenting something that I hadn't contributed directly to. My ethics didn't agree with that. How could I possibly step onto a stage and act as the face of something I hadn't worked on?
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+### Resolving to help more
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+I did some research on the project. The technology was not totally alien to me, and I had a good grasp of the fundamentals it was trying to achieve. In fact, its overall goal made me feel excited to contribute. If done well, it would be super useful to users.
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+I made a resolution that I would go ahead with this speaking opportunity only if I got the opportunity to give back to the community tenfold and become a key contributor. My friend was more than willing to help me on that journey.
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+With that resolve, we submitted our talk. My co-presenters were supportive and made me feel welcome. They said that as long as I was interested and had a passion for the project, nothing else mattered.
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+Participating in the conference was a huge opportunity, and it had such a [positive impact][4] on me. I met a lot of experienced people across the open source community and I felt inspired! I learned a _lot_ of new things from the people and the various panels, sessions, and discussions at the conference. Our presentation went well, and I consider giving a talk at such a big conference quite an achievement.
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+However, once the conference was over the _guilt_ started kicking in.
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+### Guilt as a motivator
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+I felt like I owed the community and the people who had given me this chance. I wanted to focus on the promise I'd made, but it was hard with other higher-priority things getting in the way. Whenever I deviated from my plan, the guilt kept me on track. It reminded me that I had to give back to the community that had given me such a good opportunity. After a few months of struggling and juggling, I can proudly say that I didn't give up. Today, I'm an active contributor to that project.
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+I love the challenges it presents, and I enjoy solving some of the key issues in the project's area. I also have been able to take the lead in implementing this upstream project in our downstream ecosystem. As icing on the cake, I was again invited to present with the team and give the community updates for the project. This time, it was not because of a DEI initiative, as the ratio was already balanced.
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+Feeling guilt isn't so bad after all!
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+I'm glad that I took the opportunity, and I'm glad it turned out to be a win-win situation for everyone involved. If I hadn't been approached about being a co-presenter, I probably would have never gotten involved in this project, and that would have been such a miss! I'm grateful to the people who gave me this chance and supported me.
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+I'm probably not the only woman who has faced this. I want to tell all the women out there, if such an opportunity presents itself, there's no need to feel guilt, or that you "owe" anyone, or any kind of pressure. If you do feel such pressure, then turn that emotion into a weapon and do good with it!
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+So that it ties back to the title?... because I am talking about how I turned this guilt as a motivator but also saying don't feel any guilt in the first place,
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+Also on the other hand, not sure if we should retitle the article to be more of a "DEI opportunities can be uncomfortable at the beginning but have advantages" kind of thing instead? Either ways happy with the article overall!
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+via: https://opensource.com/article/23/4/guilt-motivation
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+作者：[Surya Seetharaman][a]
+选题：[lkxed][b]
+译者：[译者ID](https://github.com/译者ID)
+校对：[校对者ID](https://github.com/校对者ID)
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+[a]: https://opensource.com/users/its-surya
+[b]: https://github.com/lkxed/
+[1]: https://opensource.com/tags/diversity-and-inclusion
+[2]: https://opensource.com/downloads/hackathon-guide?intcmp=7013a000002qLH8AAM
+[3]: https://opensource.com/article/23/3/open-source-after-grief
+[4]: https://opensource.com/article/23/4/tips-tech-conference